Busy Being Mom...

My therapist feels that I’ve made a break through and so do I. So now I’m going to share my break through with you. Because I haven’t been able to DO much with my girls, I’ve been feeling like a bad mother. I’m a DOER by nature, and I struggle with just BEING and having peace with that. But I’ve realized that BEING a good Mom doesn’t mean that I do all the right things. I can BE a good Mom to my girls even when I’m sick, tired, on the couch with my eyes barely open, recovering from chemo and not DOING anything! I’ve realized that you can DO good Mom with out really BEING a good Mom and you can BE and good Mom without DOING anything. Having said that, I make sure the girls needs are being met by others, because that’s what a good mother would do. Being a good Mom is much easier with a good man who’s being a great Dad! Obviously I’m not saying DO nothing for your kids, my point is that BEING a good Mom has much more to do with loving them, caring for them, connecting with them, reading them a story when the dishes are piling up in the sink and playing on an un-vaccumed floor. It’s stopping what you are DOING for a kiss, hug, piggy back ride and BEING the pet Dog crawling around the floor (that needs to be washed). I am BEING a good Mom even while I’m not the primary care giver to my children, during this season of my life. I’ve had to depend on others, and surrender to the fact that our girls are just fine, and so am I. In fact I’m even better than fine, especially since having this break through.